Finally...A Dream Coming True

When I was in my early twenties, infertility was something I had never thought about before. I had my first child a month after I turned 20 and my second when I was 23. Getting pregnant was never a problem and was a surprise both times. I was completely oblivious to the fact that other women were facing the hardest times of their lives doing something which I had taken for granted…..having babies.

It was when I was in the military I met a nurse. She was one of the most wonderful and kind people I had ever met. One day she shared with me the fact that she could not have children. The pain in her eyes pierced through my heart that day. I went home after work that night and peeked in on my sleeping babies. I instantly broke in to tears. I could not imagine my life without my babies for one day. It was that night that I knew I wanted to do something to help others who couldn’t have the sweet blessings that I had.

Becoming a surrogate is a huge sacrifice and many things need to be in place in order for it to be a healthy situation for you and the baby you are about to bring into the world. It is important to have the support of your spouse. At that time in my life, I did not have the support that was needed and my dream had to be placed on the back burner. Six years later, I am finally ready to begin this journey that has been in my heart for years!

My husband and I thought that we could begin this journey independently without an agency. We quickly learned that we didn’t know enough about the process to protect ourselves in an independent agreement because this was my first journey. I had been contacted by several couples who strung me along for months. Avoiding important questions and getting nowhere. We then decided to sign up with an agency. This made everything a million times easier. We found an attorney through our agency, received a background check and psychological evaluation. We were also matched with our amazing Intended Parents through the agency. Everything has felt really smooth. After I was matched, the RE had me begin birth control right away before our appointment together. I had never in my life been on birth control before. Whoa! I must say I felt a little crazy for a while. Those extra hormones were kickin my butt! My husband wasn’t complaining though because there were certain side effects that he was enjoying…lol…    (o)(o). It was a very awkward feeling standing in line waiting for birth control and thinking about my husband sitting at home with a vasectomy.

My husband and I flew into NYC and were picked up at the airport by the couple that I am going to be a surrogate for!! This trip wasn't about a vacation it was about something so much better!! (Plus those who know us, know we wouldn’t go on vacation without our children). As excited as I was, the doctor's appointment the next morning would determine everything! They picked us up from our hotel (a beautiful Hilton hotel they had booked for us) and we started our journey to Connecticut to the doctor. It was a 1 ½ hour drive that felt like ten minutes. We instantly connected with this couple and it was so comfortable!! They are beautiful, wonderful, amazing people. Their love for each other is evident and beautiful! I am so honored that they have chosen me to carry their most precious gift. The doctor’s appointment went great. I was told I have a beautiful cervix and a wonderful uterus. Hey, a compliment is a compliment, guess I will take what I can get! After a series of tests….I was cleared!!

Like a lot of exciting things in life, surrogacy definitely takes patience. It has been quite the process getting to this point. We are now in the contract phase. There is an estimated date of late March or early April for transfer! It is amazing to think these wonderful people could be parents by next Christmas!!

Words cannot express how I am feeling. I am so excited. I have been blessed with two beautiful daughters. I cannot imagine my life without them. So it really is an honor to be able to assist a couple with bringing that type of joy into their lives.